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Your Love-Link® God-Image-Element #9:Element 9 FIT

Love allows you to FIT (F) wherever you are in life.


9 ·Learn to have “purpose” wherever you “fit” in life.

KNOW YOUR FIT (F): Your Creator wants you to discover purpose, Fit, and Fulfillment, in your life.

What does Philippians 4:11 suggest about God’s ability to help you find Fit and Fulfillment, regardless of your circumstances?“Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.”


A talented young man wanted to do great things for God. He could see himself preaching the Good News to large churches, and perhaps even having a world-wide television ministry. He could see himself writing books that would help many grow in their faith. After seminary, he got his doctorate. He started in a small church and quickly moved to larger churches. God gave him a wonderful wife and children. The problem was, he was never fully satisfied, even when he seemed to be enjoying his work. He was restless. One day he received a call to a struggling, but smaller city parish. God seemed to lead, so he went. It was not his plan, but maybe he could build it bigger. After several years, and now with a healthy church, he found himself fulfilled. He even turned down several larger church offers. God had shown him that if you are serving where he wants you to be, you can find a fulfilling fit in vocation and calling.

BELIEFS MATTER: Satan wants you to believe “lies” about your Fit and Fulfillment.

What Lies about your Fit and Fulfillment are you tempted to believe, or have you tended to believe?

What “TRUTH” in Love-Links® image-element #9 do you believe about your life Fulfillment?

CHOOSE TRUTH:  Choosing to discover your calling can bring Fulfillment, purpose, and Fit anywhere.

Which ofthe “5 Actions for Growththat can help you discover greater Fit & Fulfillment anywhere?

LINKING LOVE AND FIT (F):  Love-Links® #9 - Love allows you to Fit (F) anyplace in life.

Share why loving, and obeying God, helps you “discover purpose wherever you fit in life

Older & Wiser -DISCOVERING TRUTH ABOUT YOUR FIT (F):  Match TRUTHS with the Source of TRUTHS about how God wants to help you experience Fit & Fulfillment anywhere you find yourself in life.

  1. James 2:8 “If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself,’ you do well;”
  2. 2 Thessalonians 1:11 “Therefore we also pray always for you that our God would count you worthy of this calling, and fulfill all the good pleasure of His goodness and the work of faith with power,”
  3. Colossians 4:17 “And say to Archippus, ‘Take heed to the ministry which you have received in the Lord, that you may fulfill it.’”
  4. Galatians 6:2 “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.”
  5. Acts 13:12 “Then the proconsul believed, when he saw what had been done, being astonished at the teaching of the Lord.”
  6. Psalm 145:15 “The eyes of all look expectantly to You, and You give them their food in due season.”
  7. Psalm 20:2 “May He send you help from the sanctuary, and strengthen you out of Zion;"
  8. Isaiah 48:17 “Thus says the Lord, your Redeemer, The Holy One of Israel: ‘I am the Lord your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you by the way you should go.’”

MATCHES: 1 _____, 2 _____, 3 _____, 4 _____, 5 _____, 6 _____, 7 _____, 8 _____

  1. Serving other’s needs brings Fulfillment and helps you fit anywhere
  2. Fearing God brings Fulfillment, blessings, and a reason to Fit anyplace
  3. Honoring God’s name brings Fulfillment and answers to your prayers
  4. Finding your calling brings Fulfillment and pleasure where you Fit
  5. By loving others you will find Fulfillment in God’s purpose for you
  6. A profit learned that God will show you where you Fit if you ask him
  7. King David showed that obeying God’s will helps Fulfill your purpose
  8. God may have given you a ministry to Fulfill your life’s meaning

Key: Fit Image 1-E; 2-D; 3-H; 4-A; 5-G; 6-B; 7-C; 8-F




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Element 8 MOTIVATIONYour Love-Link® God-Image-Element #8:

Love energizes your MOTIVATIONS (M).


8 ·Learn to be “engaged, energized, and driven” by caring.

KNOW YOUR MOTIVATION (M):  Godly Motivation gives you the energy to “love and be loved”.

What does Psalm 32:4 (and following) suggest about the importance of having a healthy relationship with your Creator if you want to have healthy energy for your life? “Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat.” 


A young girl played with her dolls. She planned to start picking up her room when she started school. In grade school, she ignored her studies thinking, “When I get to middle school, I will study more.” When in high school, she was bored – nothing interested her, so she thought, “When I get to college, I will apply myself.” After a young man she was dating broke up, she asked why? He replied, “You are selfish. I’m not sure you are serious about anything in life.” Hurt and offended, she happened to spot the graduation Bible her mom had given her, and began reading it. For weeks she kept reading and became intrigued with the life stories, adventures, struggles, and promises within its pages. One day God’s spirit spoke to her about how much the Father loved her. He had a purpose for her life. She was energized to find it. Her world changed. Life was now about others as well. She discovered new motivations to study, serve others, and begin a daily relationship with her Creator. While always tempted to “put things off’, her life was changed forever. Jesus’ love, not self, was now motivating her life.


BELIEFS MATTER:  Satan wants you to believe “lies” about your Motivation.

What Lies about your Motivation are you tempted to believe, or have you tended to believe?


CHOOSE TRUTH:  Choosing to obey God’s purpose for your life, results in energy and Motivation.

Share with someone how obeying God’s “rules for life” gives you Motivation, and can help your life’s energies.


LINKING LOVE AND MOTIVATION (M):  Love-Links® #8 - Love energizes your Motivations (M).

Ask your family if the see you caring and loving unconditionally”, or what they see “energizes and motivations” you.  Do you see any connection?


Older & Wiser -DISCOVERING TRUTH ABOUT YOUR MOTIVATION (M):  Match TRUTHS with the Sourceof TRUTHS about how loving unconditionally (caring for God, self, and others) can energize your every Motivation in life.


  1. 1 Corinthians 4:5 “Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord comes, who will both bring to light the hidden things of darkness and reveal the [a]counsels of the hearts. Then each one’s praise will come from God
  2. 1 Corinthians 16:14 “Let all that you do be done with love.”
  3. 1 Corinthians 15:2 “by which also you are saved, if you hold fast that word which I preached to you—unless you believed in vain.”             
  4. 2 Corinthians 1:12 “For our boasting is this: the testimony of our conscience that we conducted ourselves in the world in simplicity and godly sincerity, not with fleshly wisdom but by the grace of God, and more abundantly toward you.”    
  5. 2 Corinthians 2:12 “Furthermore, when I came to Troas to preach Christ’s gospel, and a [a]door was opened to me by the Lord,”
  6. Ephesians 6:5 “Bondservants, be obedient to those who are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in sincerity of heart, as to Christ;”     
  7. 1 Timothy 4:10 “For to this end [a]we both labor and suffer reproach, because we trust in the living God, who is the Savior of all men, especially of those who believe.”            
  8. 1 Chronicles 28:9 ““As for you, my son Solomon, know the God of your father, and serve Him with a loyal heart and with a willing mind; for the Lord searches all hearts and understands all the intent of the thoughts. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will cast you off forever.”

MATCHES: 1 _____, 2 _____, 3 _____, 4 _____, 5 _____, 6 _____, 7 _____, 8 _____

  1. Purely human Motivations needs spiritual guidance to be healthy
  2. Transparent Motives have the best outcomes
  3. Love should be your primary Motivation
  4. God sees your every Motivation; ask him to reveal them to you
  5. Knowing and sharing your Motives can clarify and build relationships
  6. God can see your “inner” Motivations that guide your choices
  7. You need to keep your Motivations pure in any circumstance
  8. Your conscience is affected by your Motivations, and needs wisdom



Key: Motivation Image 1-F; 2-C; 3-A; 4-H; 5-B; 6-G; 7-E; 8-D



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Element 7 VOCATIONYour Love-Link® God-Image-Element #7:

Love empowers your VOCATION (V) and calling. 


7 ·Learn to “be focused” on your “purpose” for living.

KNOW YOUR VOCATION (V):  Your Vocation and/or calling let you focus on your life’s purpose.

What does Ephesians 4:1 suggest about the importance of focusing upon both discovering and developing your calling - and your Vocation? “I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called… (BRG Bible)”


He was capable, intelligent, highly educated, and skillfully employed in a trade. God was pleased. Being both articulate and popular, he became an activist, spreading fear and violence while pursuing his misguided claims of culture. God was not pleased. Yet, he was God’s special creation with infinite worth. His life was violently interrupted through injury and circumstance. It was then he encountered the truth of Jesus, and chose to believe. God made him a new creature. Mocked by the establishment and threatened by friends, he fearlessly shared his new-found truths. He kept his trade and traveled his world to help others find meaning in Jesus. Unable to silence him, he was falsely accused and imprisoned. God helped him stay strong and true to His message of love. He was wrongly convicted and then executed. God took 13 of his letters, written to encourage his friends in their faith, and put them into His inspired Word. His vocation and calling, while not what he had envisioned or planned, were blessed by God. So was the life of the apostle Paul.


BELIEFS MATTER:  Satan wants you to believe “lies” about your Vocation and/or calling.

What Lies about your Vocation and/or calling are you tempted to believe, or have tended to believe?


CHOOSE TRUTH:  Choosing to blend your calling with your Vocation adds purpose to your life.

How can linking your Vocation and calling help your focus and make better work and life choices?


LINKING LOVE AND COMPETENCE (C):  Love-Links® #7 - Love empowers Vocation (V) & calling.

Share with someone why loving God in your calling & Vocation can help you “focus on purpose”.


Older & Wiser -DISCOVERING TRUTH ABOUT YOUR VOCATION (C): Match TRUTHS with the Source of TRUTHS about how Vocation (and/or calling) can result in “rewards” for your life, both temporally and eternally.

  1. Matthew 9:13 “But go and learn what this means: ‘I desire mercy and not sacrifice.’ For I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners, [a]to repentance.”                 
  2. 1 Peter 5:10 “But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, [c]perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you.”                     
  3. 1 Peter 1:15 “but as He who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct,”               
  4. Hebrews 5:1-5 “For every high priest taken from among men is appointed for men in things pertaining to God, that he may offer both gifts and sacrifices for sins. He can have compassion on those who are ignorant and going astray, since he himself is also subject to weakness. Because of this he is required as for the people, so also for himself, to offer sacrifices for sins. And no man takes this honor to himself, but he who is called by God, just as Aaron was. So also Christ did not glorify Himself to become High Priest, but it was He who said to Him:”   
  5. Mark 6:7 “And He called the twelve to Himself, and began to send them out two by two, and gave them power over unclean spirits.”             
  6. Hebrews 11:2 “For by it the elders obtained a good testimony.”
  7. 1 John 3:1 “Behold what manner of love the Father has bestowed on us, that we should be called children of God! Therefore the world does not know us, because it did not know[LG1] Him.”                     
  8. Mark 10:42-45 “But Jesus called them to Himself and said to them, ‘You know that those who are considered rulers over the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. Yet it shall not be so among you; but whoever desires to become great among you shall be your servant. And whoever of you desires to be first shall be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.’”

MATCHES: 1 _____, 2 _____, 3 _____, 4 _____, 5 _____, 6 _____, 7 _____, 8 _____


  1. You are called to serve others in any Vocation you choose
  2. Moses and Aaron received a Vocational {calling) from God
  3. You are called to be faithful in becoming more like your Creator
  4. God calls everyone (as a general Vocation) to be holy like him
  5. You are called to live a holy life
  6. You are called to be part of God’s family
  7. Abraham was blessed by obeying God’s calling
  8. The disciples blended their Vocations with their callings



Key: Vocation Image 1-D; 2-C; 3-E; 4-B; 5-H; 6-G; 7-F; 8-A



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Element 6 COMPETENCEYour Love-Link® God-Image-Element #6:

Love guides & balances COMPETENCIES(C).


6 ·Learn to “live well” by using your talents to the fullest.

KNOW YOUR COMPETENCE (C):  Your talents bless your life and others – be Competent in each.

:What does 1 Corinthians 10:13 suggest about the importance of developing Competence in all our talents? “Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.”


A young man was drafted to serve in World War II. He kissed his new bride good bye and was shipped off to basic training. He had been taught, as a young believer, that he was responsible for his choices, and wanted to be his best he could be. Each weekend, while other soldiers went to the city to blow off their energies, he roamed the training halls and took various placement tests. Upon graduating, when the others in his class were shipped off to the war, his name was called to report, instead, to the commander. One of his tests had qualified him for further training and he was sent to school again. After the war, he found out that his first training class had been chosen for a major invasion, and none had survived. When asked, he faithfully shared with others that “If you are prepared, you never know when God will use you. Developing my competencies saved my life.”


BELIEFS MATTER:  Satan wants you to believe “lies” about your Competence.

What Lies about your Competence are you tempted to believe, or have you tended to believe?

What “TRUTHS” in Love-Links® image-element #6 do you believe about your Competence?


CHOOSETRUTH:  Choosing to develop Competence in your talents, can create blessings in your life.

Which “5 Actions for Growthcan help you “intentionally” increase strong Competencies?


LINKINGLOVE&COMPETENCE(C):  Love-Links® #6 - Love guides & balances your Competence.

Share with someone how “using your talents to the fullest” helps bring well-being and to your life.


Older & Wiser -DISCOVERING TRUTH ABOUT YOUR COMPETENCE (C):  Match TRUTHS with the Source of TRUTHS about how Competence can result in many rewards for your life, both temporally and eternally.

  1. 2 Corinthians 5:5-9 “Now He who has prepared us for this very thing is God, who also has given us the Spirit as a guarantee. So we are always confident, knowing that while we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord. For we walk by faith, not by sight. We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord. Therefore we make it our aim, whether present or absent, to be well pleasing to Him.”
  2. Genesis 47:6 “The land of Egypt is before you. Have your father and brothers dwell in the best of the land; let them dwell in the land of Goshen. And if you know any competent men among them, then make them chief herdsmen over my livestock.”
  3. Proverbs 12:27 “The lazy man does not roast what he took in hunting, But diligence is man’s precious possession.”[LG1]
  4. Matthew 25:26-30 “But his lord answered and said to him, ‘You wicked and lazy servant, you knew that I reap where I have not sown, and gather where I have not scattered seed. So you ought to have deposited my money with the bankers, and at my coming I would have received back my own with interest. So take the talent from him, and give it to him who has ten talents. For to everyone who has, more will be given, and he will have abundance; but from him who does not have, even what he has will be taken away. And cast the unprofitable servant into the outer darkness. There will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’”
  5. Romans 12:1-23 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” NOTE: Read 12:3-23 also.
  6. Matthew 19:16-17 “Now behold, one came and said to Him, “’Good Teacher, what good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?’ So He said to him, ‘Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. But if you want to enter into life, keep the commandments.’”
  7. 2 Peter 1:5 “But also for this very reason, giving all diligence, add to your faith virtue, to virtue knowledge,”

MATCHES:  1 _____, 2 _____, 3 _____, 4 _____, 5 _____, 6 _____, 7 _____

  1. Regardless of fear, you are to cultivate Competence in all your talents
  2. Competence in what you do does not replace your need for grace
  3. Those with Competence are often sought out for leadership
  4. A process for developing Competence in the way you live your life
  5. Developing your confidence and Competencies brings God glory
  6. Diligence (Competence) is important in meeting your needs
  7. Paul encourages you to be Competent in fully using all your gifts


Key: Competence Image 1-E; 2-C; 3-F; 4-A; 5-G; 6-B; 7-D



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Element 5 WORTHYour Love-Link® God-Image-Element #5:

You are made in God’s Image; God is LOVE (W).


5 ·Learn the joy of “loving and being loved” as a choice.

KNOW YOUR WORTH (W):  Loving and receiving “unconditional” love develops healthy self-Worth.

What does Matthew 22:39 suggest about the importance of having a healthy sense of self-Worth as a pre-requisite to your ability to love and serve others unconditionally?   “And the second [commandment] is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”


A loving father had two sons. He loved them both equally. The eldest dug in and learned the family trade. The younger rebelled and convinced his dad to let him strike out on his own. The loving father gave him his inheritance and wished him well. However, the son made poor choices. He wasted his resources and became homeless and hungry. Reluctantly, he asked his dad if he could come home and work for food. Happy to see his prodigal son come home, he rejoiced, restoring his place in the business. The older brother was angry. He had made good choices trying to earn his father’s love. His dad explained that his love had “always” been there for him too. Because he repented and also “came home” to a new relationship with his father, he was a prodigal, too. Both sons had learned about the value of unconditional love. It was always there, but the brothers had taken two separate paths to discover and accept it. The important thing is that they both came home.


BELIEFS MATTER:  Satan wants you to believe “lies” about your Worth.

What Lies about your Worth are you tempted to believe, or have tended to believe?


CHOOSE TRUTH: Choosing to know your Creator, helps you see your true Worth and feel loved.

Reviewthe “5 Actions for Growth”; select ones that help you discover your Worth, while loving others.


LINKING LOVE AND WORTH (W):  Love-Links® #5 - You are made in God’s Image, & God is LOVE.

Share with at least one person why “learning to Love and be loved as a choicecan help you discover real joy in your life, and experience unconditional self-Worth.


Older & Wiser -DISCOVERING TRUTH ABOUT YOUR WORTH (W):  Match TRUTHS with the Source of TRUTHS about how your Worth is “validated” when choosing to, “unconditionally”, love God, yourself, and others.

  1. Revelations 3:19 “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten. Therefore be zealous and repent.”
  2. 1 John 5:2“By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and keep His commandments.”
  3. 1 John 3:23 “ And this is His commandment: that we should believe on the name of His Son Jesus Christ and love one another, as He gave us commandment.”
  4. 1 John 4:18 “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.”
  5. James 1:12 “Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been approved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.”
  6. 1 John 4:16 “And we have known and believed the love that God has for us. God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.”
  7. 2 John 1:6 “This is love, that we walk according to His commandments. This is the commandment, that as you have heard from the beginning, you should walk in it.”
  8. 1 John 4:19 “We love Him because He first loved us.”
  9. Mark 12:30 “And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength.’ [a]This is the first commandment.”
  10. 1 John 3:9 “Whoever has been born of God does not sin, for His seed remains in him; and he cannot sin, because he has been born of God..”

MATCHES: 1 ____, 2 ____, 3 ____, 4 ____, 5 ____, 6 ____, 7 ____, 8 ____, 9 ____, 10 ____

  1. Your Worth to your family grows when you choose to love God
  2. Jesus shows your Worth to him by loving you “first”
  3. If you “talk” love, but do not “act” loving, it does not build Worth
  4. By knowing that you are loved, you experience Worth without fear
  5. Obeying God is a way that you can love God, affirming your Worth
  6. God validates your Worth by unconditionally loving you
  7. You are to help others know their Worth by loving them
  8. God’s Love is “tough”, but it helps you know your amazing Worth
  9. Love, if it builds your Worth and pleases God, must be unconditional
  10. Resisting temptation “lovingly” rewards you with a sense of Worth

Key: Worth Image 1-H; 2-A; 3-G; 4-D; 5-J; 6-F; 7-E; 8-B; 9-I; 10-C



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